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Speaking Out: Our Unemployed Americans

Posted on February 14, 2014 at 7:55 PM Comments comments (11)
Speaking Out:
Our Unemployed Americans
 
 
It is amazing to me how the people we voted into office to serve and protect our interest continue to bicker issues that could be resolved if they would seriously give consideration to their true purpose in office.
 
As I read an online article concerning our unemployed Americans posted by The New York Times, I became embarrassed to live in a country that would allow their constituents, who are fellow tax payers and viable human beings to enter into a new level of poverty, recognizable only by someone going through the same turmoil. You see, I am one of the 1.7 million who is unemployed.
 
I initially read the article as a measure of self-interest – researching my options and getting unemployment Plans D, E and F into place. Quite frankly, Plans A, B and C didn’t pan out. In actuality, I relinquished my research as I read the 470 comments attached to the article, which prompted this writing. My heart swelled with comradery and compassion as I read the comments of American seniors, mothers, fathers and single people of all ages crying out in desperation– trying to hold on to their very last –trying desperately not to trade their mortgage for a cardboard box.
 
Is this who we have become as a nation? God is certainly watching, and I am sure, just as many of us are – shaking His head in disgust at the actions and inactions of our congressional and senatorial leaders. Once again, I invite you to consider the passage of Luke 12:40-48. In this parable, Jesus warns us of the detriment of unfaithful servant.
 
 
 
 
 
Luke 12:40-48
 
You must be ready all the time, for the Son of Man will come when least expected.
 
"Peter asked, “Lord is that illustration just for us or for everyone?”
 
And the Lord replied, “A faithful, sensible servant is one to whom the master can give the responsibility of managing his other household servants and feeding them. If the master returns and finds that the servant has done a good job, there will be a reward. I tell you the truth, the master will put that servant in charge of all that he owns. But what if the servant thinks, “My master won’t be back for a while,” and he begins beating the other servants, partying, and getting drunk? The master will return unannounced and unexpected, and he will cut the servant in pieces and banish him with the unfaithful.
 
And a servant who knows what the master wants, but isn’t prepared and doesn’t carry out those instructions, will be severely punished. But someone who does not know, and then does something wrong, will be punished only lightly. When someone has been given much, much will be required in return; and when someone has been entrusted with much, even more will be required. Luke 12: 40-48, New Living Translation.
 
 
 
I Must Add -
 
My purpose for this writing is to bring awareness, not only to the heartless politicians that will not allow assistance to our unemployed Americans, but to make you aware as citizens that the needs of our unemployed are everyday needs - 24 hours a day.
 
Certainly, there are many who have empathy and shake their heads in disgust over the unemployment situation, but in the end, you are warm and comfortable in your homes – mortgage paid, utilities paid, insurance paid, food on the table, and you will rest well for the night. Only when you hear again the report of $0 dollars coming into the homes of unemployed Americans – will you share the utmost empathy. And again, at the end of the day – all is well with you and the people in your household, and your nights rest is once again well.
 
Many of the people who left comments on The New York Times article, have already lost their homes and cars. Others wrote about the simple need of toilet paper, providing meals and clothing for their growing children, having the luxury of utilities, or having a phone and internet for job searches.
 
Please remember, for those that you know who are unemployed, whatever your needs are - they have the same needs– a place to stay, utilities, transportation and food. My brothers and sisters, thank you for the submission of your heartfelt prayers and please if you can, go a step further and extend a hand to help those families in need. May God continue to bless and keep you. Selah.
 
 
 
 
Prayer
 
Thank you Lord for your many blessings, we praise your holy name.
 
We thank you for being watchful over the many individuals that are in need of your care and the benefit of your blessings. Lord we ask that you touch the hearts of the men and women who are responsible for the decisions that effect our unemployed Americans. Help them to understand how lives are affected when they are not responsible stewards in their positions. Father we also ask for renewed strength, viable jobs and positive attitudes for those individuals seeking employment; and a special blessing for those that come forward to help their brothers and sisters in Christ in their time of need. In the wonderful name of Jesus we pray - Amen.

TSB Is 3!

Posted on February 14, 2014 at 7:21 PM Comments comments (0)
 
TSB Is 3!
 
 
 
This is the third anniversary of TheSingleBlessing.com! Three - a divine and powerful number is one that TSB meets with great expectation. With our Lord and Savior at the helm, we look forward to continuing to minister to the needs of Christian singles globally.
 
 
 
As TSB celebrates our third anniversary, the primary purpose of God’s plan is brought to mind – the furtherance of the Kingdom.  Considering the full spectrum of His plan, we ventured out into the fields and found some who had chosen to dedicate themselves to obedience and truly accept God’s call to work on complex field assignments. 
 
 
 
Starting on this anniversary date, TSB will annually recognize and celebrate outstanding soldiers who have been diligent in their spiritual assignments by giving them the “Abiding In The Fields Award”.  Our first recipients are two men of God of great strength and character, Mr. Lewis Williams (CA) and Mr. Bret Griffin (AL). In obedience, they have worked tirelessly and set aside their own personal needs to complete a portion of God’s amazing plan.
 
 
 
Then the word of the Lord came unto me, saying, before I formed thee in the belly I knew thee; and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee, and I ordained thee a prophet unto the nations.  Then said I, Ah, Lord God! Behold, I cannot speak: for I am a child.  But the Lord said unto me, Say not, I am a child: for thou shalt go to all that I shall send thee, and whatsoever I command thee thou shalt speak.  Be not afraid of their faces: for I am withthee to deliver thee, saith the Lord. Then the Lord put forth his hand, and touched my mouth. And the Lord said unto me, behold, I have put my words in thy mouth.  Jeremiah1:4-9  Standard King James Version
 
 
 
Mr.Lewis Williams
 
Our first recipient is Mr. Lewis Williams, aka Bro. Lew, a resident of Fairfield,CA who initiated a prayer ministry that expands across the United States.  As he sits in the captain’s seat of this powerful prayer ministry providing guidance and giving clear direction, his extraordinary prayer warriors are diligent in receiving prayer request that can only be dealt with through a warrior’s prayer and supplication.  As received, Bro. Lew provides status reports to his warriors often full of praises with positive results.  Divinely, this anointed ministry reaches many and oftentimes assists in provisions that are needed.
 
 
 
And yet, his captain’s seat is but one facet of Bro. Lew’s assignment.  He also extends his call by exhibiting outstanding work in the community with countless young people, providing the essentials that are needed for them to be successful in life. To these young people, Bro. Lew is a spiritual father figure, adult supervisor and a sounding board, while also supplementing many of their individual needs.  He is an extraordinary “Uncle” to many of the young people in Fairfield, and is loved and respected by all of “his children”and their parents. 
 
 
 
Onbehalf of the many that you and your warriors have stood in the gap in prayer for; the children of Fairfield that you have cared for, and the parents that you have ministered to and assisted, thank you Lewis for your work in exalting God’s amazing plan.  Your many fruits will continue to be revealed.
 
 
 
Mr.Bret Griffin
 
In the southeastern region of the United States, TSB found another soldier, Mr. Bret Griffin. He was called to be obedient to the instructions of God and his grandfather, Prof. H.Y. Griffin.
 
 
 
Bret recalls his grandfather having a vision to provide a park as a safe haven for the youth where they lived.  Upon retirement, he moved back into the community and dedicated a portion of land in honor of his grandfather for the construction of the children’s community park.  “MyPark”was named by the children in the community and is located in the Yerkwood Community in Sumiton, AL.  
 
 
Bret has had the pleasure of seeing the fruits of God's work through young adults who have returned to the park to give positive reports of their accomplishments and endeavors.  Thank you Bret for your tenacity, but most of all- thank you for your obedience to answer the call.
 
 
 
 
 
Prayer
 
Praises to your name Father for once again allowing TSB to celebrate another year in existence. Your divine assistance to the ministry is neither wan nor faint – thank you!   Father, we also give thanks for TSB’s introduction to many of your soldiers throughout the country that are boldly following your orders.  Father I pray that your soldiers continue to receive your blessings and that they are armed with all that is necessary to assist in conquering whatever may stand in the way of your will. We hold true to your promises Lord, and will forever give you all the glory, honor and praise.  Amen.
 

Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela - Madiba

Posted on December 10, 2013 at 3:42 PM Comments comments (0)
Mandela, Mandela,WeLoveYou!
 
 
Honoring the Life of Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela - "Madiba"
(1918-2013)
 
 
Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela "Madiba" - A man who led a remarkable life as a prophet, a political icon, and an international symbol for human rights who fought fervently against racism. He was often referred to as His Excellency, President of Morality, Father of a Nation, and with much affection - "Madiba".
 
"Madiba" - Born into the Madiba clan on July 18, 1918, into the Thembu royal family of Nonqaphi Nosekeni and Nkosi Mphakanyiswa Gadla Mandela. It was during his primary school years that his teacher gave him the Christian name of Nelson.
 
"Madiba" - Attended University of Fort Hare, University of South Africa, University of Witwatersrand and University of London.
 
"Madiba" - In 1952, he and his law partner, Oliver Tambo, established the first black law firm in South Africa, Mandela and Tambo.
 
"Madiba" - Arrested several times for racial injustices and stood trial 4 times being accused of opposing *apartheid laws (1952), treason (1956), inciting a strike (1962) and sabotage (1963).
 
"Madiba"- Labeled as a leader against apartheid and charged with incitement of a strike, he was incarcerated 10,052 days. He was sentenced to Robben Island approximately 7.5 miles from Cape Town, South Africa and confined to an 8x8 jail cell where he slept on the floor. Each year, he was allowed one visitor for 30 minutes. Several years later he was transferred to Rollsmoor Prison and then to Victor Verster Prison.
 
"Madiba" - Released from prison in 1990 at the age of 71. Following his release, he delivered a portion of his many speeches in the Afrikaans language, profoundly supporting reconciliation instead of war.
 
"Madiba"- Voted for the first time at the age of 75 in 1994.
 
"Madiba"- Entered the first democratic multiracial Presidential election in South Africa in 1994. He won by an overwhelming number of votes and as promised, served a single 5 year term.
 
"Madiba"- Received over 1,300 awards including: the Nobel Peace Prize (1993) and the US Congressional Medal (1998). Authored 3 books: Long Walk to Freedom (1994); Conversations with Myself (2010) and Nelson Mandela By Himself: The Authorised Book of Quotations (2011).
 
"Madiba"- Often referred to as a saint, Mandela stated that he was ". . . not a saint, unless you think of a saint as a sinner who keeps on trying." He was a man of enormous dignity with a commanding personality - a lawyer, teacher, mentor, thinker, statesman, a man of ideas - - an activist, a prisoner, a Christian.
 
"Madiba" - The beloved Nelson Rolihlahla Mandela - "Madiba", died on December 5, 2013, at the age of 95.   Mandela, Mandela -we love you!
 
 
*Apartheid - a system of racial segregation in South Africa that was enforced through legislation by the South African National Party from 1948 to 1994. Under this legislation, the South African people were classified according to their racial group. The classification was a determinate factor as to where a person was born, where they lived, where they were allowed to work, attend school, what facilities were available if they were sick and upon death, where they were to be buried. Votes were cast only by the white people of South Africa and the same were afforded the best opportunities and facilities. Apartheid was strictly controlled and forced others to live and remain in poverty.
 
Sources
Web Pages
BBC News - http://www.bbc.co.uk/news
Nelson Mandela Foundation - http://www.nelsonmandela.org/content
 
Books
Mandela, Nelson, Long Walk to Freedom, Abacus, London, 1995
Mandela, Nelson, Nelson Mandela: Conversations with Myself, Pan
Macmillan, London, 2010
 
 
“Narrow is the way . . . .”
 
 
 
 
 

A Commitment Is Required -

Posted on December 8, 2013 at 6:43 PM Comments comments (0)
"A Commitment Is Required - Playtime Is Over"
 
All too often we find ourselves in what we deem to be "meaningful relationships", and yet one party in the relationship is reluctant to commit. - - Afraid to fully embark in a journey with another being who is supposedly close to his or her heart. - - Reluctant to leave the solidarity of his or her life and embrace the combination of two hearts that shall one day beat as one. In order to complete the love that God has ordained my brothers and sisters, a commitment is required - playtime is over.
 
In August of 2002, my pastor, Dr. L. LaSimba Gray, went to the book of Romans and delivered a powerful sermon warning us that there is "no casual relationship with Christ. God requires a commitment, not a contribution".
 
 
Therefore, since we have been made right in God’s sight by faith, we have peace with God because of what Jesus Christ our Lord has done for us. Because of our faith, Christ has brought us into this place of undeserved privilege where we now stand, and we confidently and joyfully look forward to sharing God’s glory.
 
We can rejoice, too, when we run into problems and trials, for we know that they help us develop endurance. And endurance develops strength of character, and character strengthens our confident hope of salvation. And this hope will not lead to disappointment. For we know how dearly God loves us, because he has given us the Holy Spirit to fill our hearts with his love.
 
When we were utterly helpless, Christ came at just the right time and died for us sinners. Now, most people would not be willing to die for an upright person, though someone might perhaps be willing to die for a person who is especially good. But God showed his great love for us by sending Christ to die for us while we were still sinners. And since we have been made right in God’s sight by the blood of Christ, he will certainly save us from God’s condemnation. For since our friendship with God was restored by the death of his Son while we were still his enemies, we will certainly be saved through the life of his Son. So now we can rejoice in our wonderful new relationship with God because our Lord Jesus Christ has made us friends of God. Romans 5: 1-11 New Living Translation
 
 
Thinking on Pastor Gray's sermon, I find myself engrossed in this scripture reflecting on God's promises of everlasting love and His commitment to us. A tremendous sacrifice was made. He gave His only begotten Son - His precious beloved Son in lieu of our salvation. Although we had disappointed Him so many times before - God provided an "undeserved privilege" for us to have everlasting life. In return He not only expects, but He deserves a true commitment from us - not a casual relationship as Pastor Gray stated, but a true commitment.
 
 
Being reflective of the scripture and the sacrifice of Jesus the Christ, I strongly believe that it is incumbent that one should have a meaningful relationship with a promised commitment to share in a life filled with God's everlasting promises of love. This understanding causes me to challenge you, my brothers and sisters, to allow God to lead your relationships. I further challenge you to only embark in relationships that God has approved. And finally, I challenge you to step out of your singleness and commit to God and to your beloved mate - promising to leave your life of solidarity and devote your heart one to the other. A commitment is required - playtime is over.  Selah.
 
Forsake her [wisdom] not, and she shall preserve thee: love her, and she shall keep thee. Psalms 4:6 KJV
 
 
 
My Prayer
 
Thank you Lord for your wonderful gift of salvation and the comfort of knowing that that your love is everlasting. I praise your holy name. I pray that those who seek that comfort of a true relationship with their assigned mate will have a renewed understanding of commitment and what is required. I pray that casual relationships are no longer fused, nor confused with a committed relationship with you or with our assigned mates. I pray that you reveal a renewed spirit in the hearts of those who earnestly seek you. Thank you for your love and restoration. In the sweet name of Jesus I pray. Amen.
 
 
 
Then the Lord said to me, "Write my answer plainly on tablets, so that a runner can carry a correct message to others. Habakkuk 2:2 (New Living Translation Bible)
 
 
 
 
 
“Narrow is the way . . . .”

"My Golden Time of Day"

Posted on August 15, 2013 at 6:58 PM Comments comments (1)
"My Golden Time of Day"
 
 
There are two times each year that I assess myself to identify my life's accomplishments - in January and on my birthday. As my birthday approaches my mind is filled with wonder, expectation and determination. You see, I've recently been dealt a hand that I must carefully play and the positive outcome shall be because of God's amazing grace.
 
I know that my steps are ordered and I definitely know the source of my guidance - - so when I sat down for reassessment, I invited the heaviest "Guns" I could think of to commune, guide, comfort and protect me - God the Father, Jesus and the Holy Spirit. You see, being single doesn't mean that you must face your tribulations alone - - it only means that you need to know who to call to your "Board Meeting" for strong support and clear direction.
 
Thus far, I've assessed that I am currently in an undetermined state of being - which is not a bad thing - it only means that I am being redirected and waiting to be connected to my assigned source(s).
 
Following the meeting, I was given some instructions and it was my turn to work. I was consistent in keeping my focus, following the instructions until each phase of what I needed to do was completed. After several hours, I took a break from all the reading and figuring (Jethro says deciphering) and I listened to a bit of old school - - Frankie Beverly's "Golden Time of Day."Won't you take a listen with me?
 
 
 
As I listened, the lyrics took on a new meaning for me - - mainly because I'm in a different place in my life - I now stand wholly with God. And yet the song, still ever so beautiful, took me to a place of great spiritual inspiration and expectation.
 
As he wowed me with his voice he said ". . . [t]here's a time in your life when you find who you are, that's the golden time of day. In your mind you will find you're a bright shining star, that's the golden time of day."
 
Listening to the lyrics, I came to the realization that I was in my golden time of day. Assessing myself, developing my next steps - - it was certainly my golden time of day. Looking back, this was the time for definite redirection. I've always known who I was and I've been secure and comfortable in my own skin, so to speak. However, as my mind comprehended the next stanza of the lyrics, I also realized that I have great value to the Kingdom.
 
"In your mind you will find you're a bright shining star . . ."
I have finally realized the value of my God given talents. As Christians it is imperative that we maintain our humbleness at all times. However, as God blesses us with our talents, He expects us to perform at the level of excellence without being boastful. I have always been one with a humble spirit, as I should be and that part of me will always be maintained. However, because I am a humble person, I have learned that I must not confuse being humble with the value of my talents. You see, while it's easy for me to see the greatness in others, I have never been boastful, nor seen the greatness in myself. These lyrics have made me realize that my God given talents are valuable ministering tools. If I devalue my gifts, the end result of my works will fall short.
 
What am I saying to you?
The purpose of this writing is two fold - first, to encourage you - when your back is against the wall, let God guide you. Remain prayerful and patient. Trust in Him and be obedient to His instruction. Offer yourself to be used by Him and take His assignments with a happy heart. Make note to help others while still in your very own dilemma. Develop a closer and unquestionable relationship with God. And secondly get to work - assess yourself. Find out where you fit in God's plan. Accept and put to good use your gifts and know your worth. Maintain a humble spirit; never be boastful or puffed up - despite your level of achieved greatness. These things - I say to you, will help you to cross the bridge as you are being redirected despite the circumstances.
 
My answer has yet to come. I continue to be prayerful and live each day with divine expectation.
 
Wait on the Lord, be of good courage and He shall strengthen thine heart. Wait, I say, on the Lord. Psalms 27:14 KJV † Selah.
 
 
“Narrow is the way . . . .”
 

"Jesus Came"

Posted on July 21, 2013 at 7:46 AM Comments comments (0)
 
 
[Original Post: December 25, 2012]
 
 
Oh what a blessed morning this is - Glory to His name!
 
I can only imagine the joy that the Wise men encountered as they looked upon the sweet face of Jesus. Personally, I know that when I see a baby - I experience a feeling of joy from within my soul. I can only imagine how they felt as they gazed upon His face. To be chosen to have a part in God's plan is truly an honor, whatever the plan may be. To have a part in the very beginning of His plan for salvation for all human-kind is awesome!
 
This tiny baby boy was God's true gift to us. His birth brought about redemption, salvation and eternal life - all promised by God.
 
Jesus: the Son of our living God; the Prince of Peace; our personal invitation to enter into the kingdom of God.
 
Jesus: born of the virgin Mary; protected by Joseph, His earthly father.
 
Jesus: grew to be the master teacher, with the wisdom and knowledge of God to lead us to salvation.
 
Jesus: conquered all on the third day after death.
 
Jesus saves. Jesus lives. Jesus is! Glory to His name. Selah!
 
 
 

Happy Second Anniversary TSB

Posted on July 21, 2013 at 6:05 AM Comments comments (4)
Happy Second Anniversary TSB
"He LivesWithin My Heart"
 
 
 Anniversaries and birthdays come once a year, but God lives continuously within my heart.  On December 30, 2012, "TheSingleBlessing.com" will celebrate with God, our second anniversary. Praises to the Lord!
 
I am so very glad that He chose me to do His will. I am so very glad that He gave me the strength to carry on. I am so very glad that through trials, I can continue and accept the changes that are placed upon my shoulders.
 
Praises and love to my Master, my Father in heaven. I continue to pray for understanding, wisdom and guidance. My Lord, my redeemer - in you will I trust. Once again I place this ministry in your hands - for You, my Father, is the author - I am a mere tool. Praises to your name.
 
 
 
My Prayer
Thank you Lord for the blessing bestowed upon the TheSingleBlessing.com ministry. Under watchful eye I have seen your amazing work accomplished through its means. You have taken the ministry to an amazing level, reaching many that I would not have known to exist. I pray that those in need of your comfort and protection will know you as their redeemer and realize the true meaning of "hope in Christ." Your provisions are astronomical – and I thank you Lord.  Amen.
 

"My Nth Degree Confession"

Posted on December 25, 2012 at 12:51 PM Comments comments (13)
"My Nth Degree Confession"
 
 
For years I wanted to publish a Christian magazine. My magazine (wearing the same name as this website) had been ready for print for some time, however, it never came to fruition because of the publishing cost. But one December night in 2010 at 9:00 p.m., God spoke to me and provided instructions to develop a "web publication" of my magazine, "TheSingleBlessing.com".
 
Clearly, He instructed me to take the articles from the magazine and place them on the website. Not thinking that I was going against His will and instruction, I chose to utilize only a certain portion of my articles, because I wanted to salvage some for the publication of the magazine at a later time.
 
Unknowingly, I was disobedient and it was costly. However, the cost was never a realization to me because of the vast number of people from across the globe that visited the site. Honestly, I have been truly amazed by the numbers! I can only imagine the results, had I followed His instructions to the nth degree - just as Noah did.
 
He had also clearly told me that the site would be global and it immediately was and continues to be. Glory to your name Father!
 
Now, I can only apologize for not fully following God's instructions to the nth degree. In the realm of obedience, Noah is and has been one of my major guide posts. I thought that I was being much like him – carefully taking God's instructions and remaining within the guidelines that He provided for me. Thinking back to Noah, his ark worked just as God planned - perfectly, with no mishaps.
 
It was only today, as I shared with a Christian friend how the site was developed, that I realized my failure to fully follow God's instructions. As I explained the development to my friend, the words "take the articles from the magazine and place them on the website" burned my soul - - the realization was so heavy that I could no longer continue the conversation. I felt an urge to get things right and I went directly to work on correcting my mistake. My measurements were off, and my "boat" had to be restructured so that it could truly sail and not just be kept afloat.
 
As amazing as TheSingleBlessing.com has been – I am so excited to see what happens next. Father, I thank you for your "guidance and perfection" and allowing me to correct the error at hand.
 
Lesson learned: My mistake was that of selfishness - - I wanted to publish the magazine. But there was a serious conflict at hand, I couldn't operate in the will of God and abide by things of my own choosing. Unknowingly, I rode the fence – but now I no longer straddle. It feels good - - Confession is good for the soul.
 
My brothers and sisters, how often have you partially done what God expected of you? - - And yet, you expect full results from Him. Selah.
 
My Prayer
 
Lord, I ask that Your blessing remains with TheSingleBlessing.com and that you take the ministry to yet another level so that those in need of your comfort and protection will see and feel the realization of what hope in Christ really means. I pray Father, that you accept my confession of failure to follow instruction and turn it into a positive lesson for those in need of knowing how to realize the comfort of your protection. Grow me Father, guide me - - I know that you have forgiven me. With all my heart I love You and live to do what is right and good in your sight. Your provisions are astronomical – beyond my wildest dreams and I thank you Lord, thank you.  Amen.
 
 
“Narrow is the way . . . .”

Christian Single Relationships

Posted on December 4, 2012 at 10:06 PM Comments comments (2)
 
Break The Cycle – Let It Go!
I’m not a clinical psychologist or psychiatrist, but someone has to say it – when you’re in an unhealthy relationship, let it go!
This article isn’t for everyone. I certainly applaud those of you who are in happy, healthy relationships. It’s not for the couple that just had a disagreement over whether the toilet paper roll should be placed over or under. It is meant to bring attention to those individuals – both male and female – who are caught up in situations that you “know” are not good for you and yet you hang on.
 
Questions, Questions, Questions
So what should you do? How do you let the relationship go? How do you know that you need to let it go?
Let’s tackle the obvious first – identifying that an unhealthy relationship exist.
Actually, finding the answer is quite simple. We need only to answer one question - - “Does your misery outweigh the happy times that you have together?”
To do this make two columns - - In one column list the things that make you happy in the relationship and the things that make you unhappy in the next column. Compare the two. Does your column filled with misery outweigh your happy column?  If it does, it’s time to break the cycle and let it go.
 
The Breaking Point
What is the breaking point? How far do you go before you think enough of yourself to cut the ties that make you miserable?
All too often, we allow ourselves to be caught up in relationships filled with selfishness and abuse - - the basis of which leads to an unhappy, unhealthy, one-sided affair of the heart. Out of all my years of living, I have been able to develop a few words of wisdom. One of which is – you can’t make anyone love you. No matter what you do, it does not mean that any measure of affection will be returned to you.
What causes us to stay in unhealthy relationships? Why do we hang on? Is it fear of loneliness? Many of us can’t stand to be without someone in our lives - constantly in and out of relationships – it doesn’t matter whether they are meaningful or not – you have to be with someone – anyone.
So what’s the answer? Actually, the answer lies within – you have to first love yourself. Discover who you are and what you want out of life. You have to enjoy being with “you”.
 
God Specializes
The monumental fact in this whole matter is that very few of us actually give our dating over to God. No, I don’t mean just asking Him to bring us a mate. I mean actually letting Him be in charge of your dating experiences. Trust Him. We all know that God will never make a mess of our lives. Allow Him to work on you and prepare you for the prize that He’s chosen for you. Keep in mind, that while he is preparing you for the man or woman of your dreams, He is also preparing them for you. It may seem as though it is taking forever before you are actually made ready for your mate. But, nevertheless, rest assured that when your time arrives, it will be everlasting and well worth the wait.
 

“I Heard A Sermon”

Posted on August 18, 2012 at 4:01 PM Comments comments (0)
 
I heard a sermon that I needed in the summer of 2000 - “Three Steps and You're Out”. 
 
The sermon was all about our personal ruts and how to get out of them.  The minister’s text was taken from Isaiah 43:18-21.  As he taught, he instructed the congregation to forget the former things, giving no consideration to the old things. 
 
Further, he expounded from the text, to accept the new things and above all, give God all the praise he so richly deserves.
 
The minister then provided 3 steps to aid in the climb out of our personal ruts, whatever they may be.  Step one was a known automatic for a seasoned Christian - “Put God first”.
 
Step two, another no brainer, “Lean on God”.  But the kicker included, not partially, but in every respect.  The minister profoundly stated that “God will meet you at the “Red Sea place in your life” and lead you through your hardship.  Most importantly, he will deliver you.
 
Step three definitely hit home - “Listen to the Lord”.  The problem was that I thought I was listening.  But then I discovered, how could I listen when I was constantly on the move - ALWAYS DOIN’ STUFF!  I learned that in order for me to listen, I needed to be still - - not looking at HGTV, writing business proposals or doing whatever else was a priority at the time - but sitting still, expecting a glorious answer from God, my Redeemer - the only one that will ever truly know my heart.
 
Listening to that sermon in the summer of 2000 provided another stepping stone in the journey of my Christian walk.  I thank God for the minister and for allowing him to minister to my needs.  You see, God is constantly listening to us, we only have to be quiet long enough to receive our answer.  Let all who have breath praise the Lord! 
 
 
"Narrow is the way . . . ."